A Girl You Should Date

This is The Follow up of  The Previous Post. Yesterday I read a Blog Post and comments, The good part is I Liked that Blog so much that I Decided to Reblog it.

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

– Rosemarie Urquico –

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Girls Are you Listening ? Top Reason for Why Should you Date Him ?

A very Beautiful Comment I Found while Reading a Post.

I speak from experience when I say this, so girls, listen up.

No this is not the most important thing.

The most important thing about a girl is her vision. Date a girl who does not let past experiences poison the thought of being happy together with a guy. Date a girl who does not reject a guy simply because he has been a friend for so long and cannot overcome the awkwardness of being with the close friend nice guy who would otherwise act perfectly in every way to make the girl happy. Date a girl who is not blinded by friendship that cripples her ability to see the bright and enjoyable future with the nice guy stuck in the friend zone.

Girls too often make harsh, irreversible judgments on how guys act to initially attract and hook up with the girl and fail to focus on how the guy would act to stay with the girl. That’s why there are far too many couple who hook up because of being attracted to surface impressions and personalities, but fail to realize the utter incompatibility between them, resulting in a harsh break up. Or worse, a girl may be pressured to stay together with a guy when she would have been much happier with someone else.

Girls, think about the man who you would impulsively shove away in the friendzone who understands you the most – the man who is the easiest to approach and treats you with unparalleled thoughtfulness and care. Are these not the qualities that every girls claims she looks for – kindness, compassion, consideration and affection? Why then, is he in the friendzone after fully considering the possible joyous future with him? How influenced are you by your past biases and naive emotions to give you that “uncomfortable” feel with a guy who would otherwise, be technically perfect for you? This “uncomfortable” feel is completely unreasonable, though natural, and girls should take an effort to overcome this because 10 years down the road, simple impulsive “feel”s aren’t going to determine your happiness, but a deep connection and understanding between a couple will.

This villainous bias that brings a sense of unexplainable discomfort can hurt you and in many ways. Think about this. If one guy tells a joke and you don’t laugh and in a parallel universe, another guy tells the same joke and you laugh, you would be biased. Why? Who knows, but don’t let it blind you from seeing what’s really important.

Sure, a lot of you are going to say “you don’t have to be so technical with love!”, which is true – there are some unexplainable, intangible things about love that just make it magical. But don’t been brainwashed by this feeling, you need to balance it with reason and foresight. Remember that those who are reluctant to be technical and rational and succumb to the “unexplainable pull” of love are the easiest to be exploited by cheap guys who know the analytic technical “tricks” to attract women, which would distract girls from their true personality.

Speaking from experience, I was a college sophomore. There were pretty much 6 men that were on “that” side of my life, 2 of which were in the realms of possibility. One was the nicest, most caring (but not a pushover), interesting and greatest guys that I’ve ever met, who had been my friend for several years and would always be there for me and we’d always enjoy our encounters. The other was a guy of the same age who I had been friends with but not that close. He was also nice, but in a very mellow way and god I was attracted to him for some reason. So the first guy asks me out and without thinking about it too much, the idea of him being a friend for such a long while overcast any thoughts of a possible future with him, so I put him in the friendzone. I ended up going out with the second guy. However, our relationship was not without its rough edges. Sometimes, it seemed like he never cared for me and other times it seemed as if he was, for a lack of words, being a total jerk both to me and people around him. However, I was pressured to stay together with him because, at that time I thought “honestly, who would want to have “breakup” appear in their history?” I ended up marrying him and holy crap, it was a rough ride. Finally, I came to my senses and decided that this would not have any happy outcomes without an astronomical, time-consuming, mind-drenching effort.

So what happened? I let my biases blind me from seeing who would be the right guy for me. I’ve completely lost contact with him but I’m certain it would’ve been better than me pursuing a relationship driven by unexplainable attraction impulses.

Succinctly, girls, don’t let your past prejudices and bias prevent you from seeing the possible future with a man.

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My Height Depended on Whom I Was Dating – Amy Purdy

My Height Depended on Whom I Was Dating – Amy Purdy

A Brilliant Example of Positive Attitude and Optimism, and if you think You have Bigger problems then please view the whole talk and then think again.

If your life were A book, and you were the Author, How would you want the story to go?  That’s the question that Changed my life for ever – Amy Purdy.

One of Best and Most Inspirational Ted Talks Ever.